My company does "For All" sessions, to try to improve diversity, but since they are filtered to exclude many, it feels like it does the opposite.
So my company does “For All” events (lunches, trainings, etc), that are about inclusiveness... by excluding straight whites males, conservatives, moderates, or “normals”. Not that gays or minorities are abnormal... but PoC’s are the only ones that count. And in our company male Asians and Indian's aren't PoC's.
Normally, I’m not too impressed — the stories/speakers can be a little too activist with an agenda. Like the lady preaching about how she gave kids different labels and told them one was bad, and all the kids ganged up on that group.
Yesterday’s event had a really nice exec that told his truth about when he started to figure out he was gay, in an Irish Catholic Family, and his fears, discovery and experiences (and the people he lost). It was quite sincere, and a really touching. So zero complaints about him as a speaking or his truth. Quite the opposite, it was the most open/honest I’d ever seen an exec at the company. Yet, it bugged me not because of what he said, but something else...
The venue felt awkward to me. Yes, it was a “safe space”, and the guy will get a ton of sympathy from the audience. And that’s all well and good. But they keep pitching this idea of “bring your true self to work”. And I agree that people shouldn’t have to feel closeted, or like they have two identities (the work them, and the real them). But on the other hand, how much of our real selves should we bring to work and share with everyone else, and why only some groups get to do this, and others are excluded?
- What about the guy that sincerely was harassed for being white in a minority neighborhood, and that studied history and so believes in white separatism? Why isn’t that guys truth, just as valid?
- What about the Jew who had their family killed in the Holocaust by democratic socialists, then fled to Israel only to have more of their family murdered by Muslim terrorists? Still they overcame too.
- We haven’t had a single religious person be able to get up there, and preach their truth that matters to them: about how they found God and it changed their life.
- This is especially awkward as we have an office in Utah (SLC area) -- I'd expect some LDS/Mormon's to have great stories about their time as missionaries and how it changed who they are. (Either seeing bad shit, and recognizing how good they have it, or conversion).
- What about the kid that used a gun to hunt or target shoot and it saved them from a troubled life at home?
- What about the alcoholic/substance abuser that found AA (and the 12 steps) and how that allowed them to be a more functioning person in life.
- Or about the abused or neglected or sick child (or adult), that overcame great adversity, to get where they are.
- All the closeted folks I know at work are closet conservatives or Trump supporters -- Biden/Clinton/far-left supporters are allowed to be open about it and chide the other side
All these things are other people's truths too. And all would cause HR to get the vapors, because they might not be far-left, or politically correct.
Again, my problem is not in the individual telling their truth. I’d love sharing that with individuals on a 1:1 setting, or even 1:many... just the venue of the formality of work, juxtaposed with the intolerance of woke, combines to make it less great. In aggregate, it changes from an individual woman telling you her story of abuse (which I have nothing but sympathy for), to a #metoo bitch session where nasty-feminists go around the room supporting each other in a message that men in power are all bad. Or women in power are somehow better.
Why does it bug me?
I was pondering the reason why it feels that way to me, and it’s the lack of diversity of thought or experiences. The venue is the opposite of what it states it is about. There were so many truths, that I wasn't getting to hear.
This wasn’t a venue where people could go around the table, and share their truths, like a group therapy session. It was dogmatic far-left programming where some members get to that, others get to listen in (free speech doesn’t apply to them), and are marginalized by not being called on, with the inferences that:
- that only the PoC’s truths matter -- and all of them had shitty lives because of the oppression of others (we never hear how it easy it was to be a minority, especially compared to other places in the world)
- or that by the lies of omission (of not calling on them), the lothers truths aren’t as valid
Thus, it feels like a place to re-affirm far left bigotries, than one where both sides come together based on their shared realities: that life is hard, or that you don’t know what others have had to go through to get there.
“For All”, feels Orwellian to me, and means all animals are equal. Some animals are just more equal than others. Most of the individuals came across as collectivist activated assholes that are taking an opportunity to humble brag about their victimhood cred. A few seem highly sincere and are great speakers opening up about what makes them tick. But as long as only some sides get to do it, it feels more like 1984's "2 minutes of hate", and that taints even the best of speakers and stories in my mind, because “For All”, is a dishonest moniker that most certainly does not mean “for everyone”.
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